My heart ached,I felt dazed and confused. No words were needed. Only our hearts knew what our words could not express. I just wanted and desperately needed someone to listen.
John 15:12 “Love one another as I have loved you”
Grief no matter how it enters our life is real and has many layers. It causes a true HEART ACHE. Grief grips our hearts with a ripple effect that extends to our families, friends, co-workers and even to our children.
The spiral of our grief will lead us through many stages. It may even trigger additional grief from past losses. The initial impact leaves us in shock, anguish, despair. We may find that we are trying to safeguard ourselves followed by reconstructing ourselves and our surroundings - healing. The journey of a broken heart takes time to heal. Like a thumbprint no two people grieve the same.
With death or with any of life changes we must find a way to bring balance to our lives. I often use a slinky to demonstrate this to those who are grieving. At any given time during the stages of grief you may find yourself bottoming out, just as the slinky falls from your hand to the floor, stretching itself downward. Most of the time there will come the point when you spring back up. If you don't find yourself spring back up, reach out for help, see a counselor, find someone who will listen!
When you feel down allow the tears to flow. Many broken hearts may find themselves shedding lots of tears. Remember tears are a gift from God to help you empty some of your sorrow. When you feel you’ve been in the deep long enough take the time to remember. Allow yourself time to play. Allow yourself to laugh. Give yourself permission to live.
God has blessed us with his love and the gift of those whom we love, those who are now with him in Eternal life and those who remain with us.
This month take the time to remember. Take the time to allow your heart to heal. Continue on your journey of life for your hearts sake. Take the time to love for your love is a blessing.
Greater Cincinnati Bereavement Group Offers Help and Hope During Holiday Season
When a loved one has died Christmas can be a painful reminder of a life that used to be. WNKU’s Cheri Lawson reports on an area bereavement group that offers help and hope during the holiday season
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Episode 12: The Tragedy of Suicide
Summary: Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States with 38,000 suicide deaths reported each year. In today’s society, there’s a stigma associated with suicide. Most people won’t talk about it and treat it with fear. But being upfront about the struggle and seeking help can prevent the loss of a precious human life. Each death has a ripple effect the impacts friends and loved ones. With more education, prevention and treatments, some of these lives could be saved.
Center of Strength, Hope, and Healing
COJ provides “ongoing” grief support to children, teens, and adults. COJ becomes family to those we serve. Just like grief itself, our programs do not have a time limit, which helps restore individuals and family balance. Over the past year, we've assisted over 4,000 persons of all ages throughout the Greater Cincinnati area.
The Cincinnati Enquirer Special Featured article Jun 9th, 2013
The Rules of Grieving: They are still boys
Last summer, reporter John Faherty with the Cincinnati Enquirer approached grief counselors Sheila Munafo-Kanoza and Pat Buckley and asked if he could report on their work at Archbishop Moeller High School. Companions on a Journey “Teens-in-Grief” program got its start at Moeller High School
The boys and school counselor Jim Elfers were generous enough to allow Faherty to attend all of their meetings. There were no limits placed on what Faherty could or could not report. They did so in order to show grief and the difficult process of working through it.
In the story, we identify the speaker of comments made by the five boys we focused on during the year. Those are the boys we later spoke to outside of group. We also spoke to their parents and guardians. In other instances, the speaker is not identified to respect their privacy.
This is their Story:
Lord, we praise You for blessing us with Your love and the love of each other. "Come Lord, Be our Guest and hold our hearts in Your hands.” Draw us ever so close to You so that we may become Companions on a Journey seeking Your peace, Your strength and Your love. Amen.
Companions on a Journey’s mission is to provide ongoing support and life balance for the bereaved in families, schools, businesses and organizations, with faith, hope and love: one child, one teen, one adult, one family at a time.
We seek to be the most compassionate and effective faith-based bereavement support center in the Tri-State area serving individuals, families and groups at any stage of their grief so they may come and find hope, strength, and healing.
Sheila Munafo Kanoza, Executive Director and Founder of Companions on a Journey